In his book, The Art of Loving, the
renowned psychoanalyst, Dr. Erich Fromm discusses the types of love and the progression
through which an individual should grow in his/her ability to love. Using these stages,
we can trace Pip's growth in loving:
SELFISH
LOVE
Fromm writes that the young child's concept of love is
basically selfish as the child views the world in terms of himself. Thus, Pip finds
comfort with Joe who dons his affection upon the boy, protecting him from the wrath of
Mrs. Joe, encouraging him in his scholarly pursuits--"You're an uncommon scholar,
Pip"--and in demonstrating a mature, unselfish love: "Ever the best of friends, eh,
Pip, old chap?" Of course, Pip does not reciprocate Joe's love; he merely feels secure
in this love. So, when he visits Miss Havisham's, Pip is stunned by Estella's coldness
and cruelty. When, for example, she ridicules his appearance as coarse and his speech as
backward, Pip becomes discomfited and questions the value of Joe's affection and love
because it no longer makes him feel secure, and security if the value that Pip the boy
places upon love.
EROTIC
LOVE/INFATUATION
After Pip is notified of his "great
expectations" and he moves to London to become educated and instructed in the ways of a
gentleman, he values the attentions of the beautiful Estella and feels that he is in
love with Estella, even though she coldly rejects him. At this point, then, Pip's
feelings are infatuation as he is only in love.
LOVE FOR
OTHERS/UNSELFISH LOVE
Later, as he encounters Provis and
tries to help him escape London, Pip grows in altruistic feelings for the old Magwitch
who has worked to pay for Pip's becoming a gentleman, even risking his life to visit the
boy who he envisions as one like he once was and could have been if he had had a
benefactor. Realizing all that Magwitch has done for him, Pip risks his life for
Provis, and stays by his side, comforting him with the history of his beautiful daughter
as Magwitch/Provis lies dying. After he cares for Provis, Pip visits Miss Havisham and
saves her from a fire; he also rescues Herbert financially, making arrangements for him
to work for a banking concern. Finally, Pip returns to Joe Gargery and the forge,
begging forgiveness from his true friend. As the model of real love, Joe instantly
indicates that there is nothing to forgive by saying his usual, "Ever the best of
friends."
From the selfish heart of a child who desires
what he falsely views as valuable--becoming a gentleman--Pip returns to where his heart
has always been and finds comfort in the true, unselfish love of
Joe.
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