Psychologists have analyzed what draws us to other people, and
   have come up with several broad categories that determine our friendships with other people. A
   couple of those that apply to Gene and Finny's friendship are complementarity, utility value, and
   ego-support value.
Complementarity refers to the fact that we like
   to be friends with people that are different than us, but that work well with our personalities.
   I like to think of it as peanut-butter and jelly--totally different toppings, but together, they
   work really well. Gene is quiet, studious, serious and calm, whereas Finny is spontaneous, funny,
   charismatic and excitable. But together, they balance each other out. Finny helps Gene to get out
   of his shell, have fun and make friends, and Gene helps Finny to stay grounded and realistic.
   It's a good match.
Utility value refers to the fact that we often
   make friends with people who are useful to us for some reason. This also applies to Gene and
   Finny. Gene helps Finny to study and pass his classes, and Finny helps Gene to get out and relax
   every once in a while. They are useful to one another.
Ego-support
   value refers to how we like friends that boost our egos and give us a lot of support. Finny makes
   Gene feel good through complimenting his smarts, and bringing out the best in him, and Gene makes
   Finny feel good through being there for him in his games and
   antics.
For these three reasons, and many more, Gene and Finny make
   a friendship that really works; they complement each other, help each other, and support each
   other. I hope that those thoughts helped; good luck!
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